Toni Mac Says It All...

I love TED Talks.  I have the app and watch a few things from time to time, always amazed at the diversity of study in this world.  From stealth octopi, to how to connect complex ideas in a cooperation, I always learn.

Imagine my surprise when I saw a TED Talk on sex workers...

It may make you happy, it may challenge the way you think, it may cause you to grip your bible and shout out, "Lord save us all..."

I happen to 100% agree...decriminalize sex.

An old flame...

I can see now how Facebook can get a person in trouble.

I got a request for friendship!  The name was familiar but not recognizable.  I sent a message asking for more info on how we were connected.  I have a lot of privacy on my FB account, part because of my job and position in the community and I don't need everyone knowing my private life.  Mostly because of my habits and dalliances and I don't want anyone finding me who should not.

Usually if I as a person for more info they do not respond.  However, she did respond with her maiden name.  I thought I knew who it was but asked again for more specific details so I could place her in my memory.  She responded, letting me know that she dated my best friends and was at my wedding...

Did we flirt, but never date...I asked...

Yes...lol...

Bingo...

I remembered her...

She was pure sex.  She excited me beyond any measure but was always involved with someone I knew.  We flirted heavily...very heavily...loads of sexual tension between us.

At one point she told me that she had a contest with her friend...who could sleep with the most people before they turned 18.  I had smiled, she smiled...she was unattached and so was I.  It was during a time when my wife and I were split up.  Just before my first child was born.  Silent agreement, tonight would be the night we were going to hook up.

We traveled with a group of friends to some hot springs and swam naked...all of us.  What a wonderful time to be naked and young.  It was very dark out so there was not a lot to see.  Her friend was lingering by me, I remember the friend being a bit gothic and not all that attractive to me.  I spent most of my time watching her from afar and waiting.

We all went to a campsite and drank and ate together, laughing.  We started to play tag or hid and seek, a juvenile game that was an excuse to touch each other.  We went to hide together, behind a tree.  I don't remember if we said anything but we kissed.  It lasted a while then she broke it off and told me we could not...

It seemed that her gothic friend had called dibs on my skinny ass that night, I was taken.  I had already upset the situation by paying more attention to her then her friend.  I remember not really giving a shit and telling her so.  But, the old adage of "Chicks before Dicks" was in play and it became obvious that this chance was not to be.  I remember at one point having the gothic girl rolling on top of me with the FB friend next to me...we kissed while she was not looking.

That was it...never again do I remember seeing, hearing or talking to her.  I can say that I frequently remember my missed chance to be with her and regret not just making it a point to be inside of her.  As a much more vocal adult I wonder why I did not suggest a gothic, FB friend three-way...I am sure they would have been down with it.  I had about 4 chances in my youth to have a good three-way, but due to my religious upbringing and the lack of the internet or accessible porn, I did not know to even ask.

I wanted to let her know that I remembered all of this...

I wanted to let her know that I still think of here every now and again...

I wanted to let her know that a hook up, while improbable due to geography, is still possible...

She looks good on FB...

I now see how FB can be dangerous....

But I did not.

I wonder what she is thinking, half a country away, chatting with me...what does she REALLY remember?  Would she even say?

Food for Thought Friday: Boobs

For guy s and girls who like girls – what is it that you like about boobs? Is there an ideal shape or size?
For girls – how do you feel about how you feel about your “girls”? Are you happy with them? Have you always been?
For everyone – do you think the female “chest” has been over sexualised?

 What I like about boobies.  I like the feel of a real boob, it is like firm tofu at first then like Stretch Armstrong when you squeeze a bit harder.  The round shape to the underside of the boob really gets me going.  Side boob is rather amazing when it is just peeking out of a loose fitting t-shirt or spaghetti strap blouse.  Any sneak peek of a boob is rather awesome.

Nipples are wonderful also, they are so reactive.  I can understand how much fun playing with a soft cock and making it erect must be when I compare it to the feeling of a nipple hardening in between my lips.  The whole areola is amazing when it stiffens up or gets flushed with blood when an orgasm hits.  I do like smaller nipples, little pea size is awesome.  I also like when the areola is darker than a girls natural skin tone.  Sasha Grey type nipples...amazing.  However, pale nipples can really get me going also.

When it comes to size I am more of a fan of "less is more".  I do not understand this worlds fascination with huge boobies.  To me it is almost a symptom of mental illness when you have to have large breasts or when your attraction is to large boobs.  If you naturally have large boobs and you like them...great!  I am not one to argue at all, the more confident and sexual you feel with your body, the more attractive you are not matter how off my personal "boobie bell curve" you may be.

Fake boobs do not do it for me at all.  Not a fan.  I have said it before.  I understand why and I get it, but I still do not like the feel of some foreign object floating around in your skin.  I have felt one set of fake boobs that were as real as it gets, still too big for my tastes, but a whole lot of fun on that girl.

So, I guess there is an "ideal" shape and size.  Youthful would be the word for it.  However, I fucking hate "ideal" shit.  I am not "ideal"...I just am.  Like cock size, you need to just be happy with what you got.  Confidence goes a long way.

I will admit to being slightly intimidated by boobs.  While I am really good at licking pussy, I am less good at boob play.  It seems to be a really specific thing.  Nipple play?  How hard/soft?  Sucking, less or more suction?  Whole boob grab...hard massage or gently stroking?  Twisting, pulling, pinching, flicking, kneading, rolling, wet fingered caressing...

Everyone likes something different and you don't know until you ask or try.  I wish I knew more on what the options were.  I could create a flowsheet in my mind and quickly categorize the nipple play that will obtain maximum pleasure.  I need to work on this.

Has the breast been overly sexualized...in America...yes.

When we have to hide everything all the time then it becomes forbidden fruit.  Forbidden things are really desirable...ask Adam and Eve...  It would take a lot of years to get to the point where a co-ed game of shirts and skins would be acceptable.  I am not there.  If you take your shirt off my cock gets hard and my brain and body say "SEX TIME!!!"

Would I be happier with the idea of accepting boobs as body parts in public and sex toys in the bedroom?  Would women be happier being able to let the girls free and not be judged, ogled, or ostracized?

The next generation can work on this shit...I am to old to change a thing...

While we wait...show me your tits please!